The Worst Experiences Are What Make You Happy. (Day 7)
You should have a positive mind literally 24/7 (Day 7)
Everything you experience is positive.
How to learn from the worst experiences in life.
“If you can’t learn from the worst experiences in life, you certainly can’t learn from the best”.
EVERY EXPERIENCE IS POSITIVE IF YOU DO THESE THINGS
LEARN FROM THE WORST EXPERIENCES OR ELSE…
THE WORST EXPERIENCES ARE WHAT MAKE YOU HAPPY.
The Worst Experiences Are What Make You Happy.
DAY 8 - HOW TO LEARN FROM EVERY POSSIBLE HUMAN INTERACTION EVER
DAY 8 - FLOPS VERSUS TOPS, A TOP WILL LEARN FROM EVERY SITUATION
DAY 8 - A FLOP OR A POP (YOU CHOOSE), DO YOU LEARN FROM EVERY EXPERIENCE?
Index:
1) Intro
2) How to speak and act in a way that invites immense growth and reflection.
3) How to NOT be arrogant, thinking that you can’t grow any more.
4) EXACTLY how to become the kind of person who can see beyond the Earth’s surface.
5) How to make all of this easier, by being calm and present.
6) Learn more!
Good morning!
Basically, we’re gonna look at how to speak and act in a way that invites immense growth and reflection, and that allows all of today’s steps to even be possible.
And also how to NOT be arrogant, thinking that you can’t grow any more, that you know everything that you need to know and thinking that your current poor life-choices will get you to where you want to be.
Sort’ve in that, how to push forward regardless of what happens to you.
And ultimately how to become the exact kind of person who can see beyond the Earth’s surface, and who can learn and grow from literally any conceivable event, experience, person, words spoken, or thoughts that you might have.
P.S. how to make all of this easier, by being calm and present.
How to speak and act in a way that invites immense growth and reflection
Every word that you speak and every action that you perform, casts a vote for a particular identity.
Every time that you say bad things about yourself both to you and to others, like, “it’s all their fault”, or “I’m so bad at math” or “I’m not confident”.
The person who says these sorts of things never stops to actually observe and reflect on the thoughts they have about themselves, others and the world at large.
As a whole, your words can either fuck you up, or turn you into a god.
If you say self-belittling things, put responsibility onto other people and things, and complain about who you are and your life-position, your casting votes for somebody who’s unaccountable, unconfident, dishonest and self-deprecating.
That shit has a compounding effect, and you’ll probably wake up in 10 years and say, “I’m…fucking miserable”.
How to NOT be arrogant, thinking that you can’t grow any more.
Don’t be arrogant.
This is similar to the last point, but I wanna point out something more specific.
Most people aren’t open to new ideas or to new experiences, to changes and aren’t open to shifting their beliefs.
They think that there isn’t really that much more to know than what they currently know, they think that they’re different and that a lot of constructive advice doesn’t apply to them and they believe that life should just work out for them because they’re “trying their best”.
They might be trying, but at the wrong things, and they’re not willing to admit it and not willing to go out and learn different wisdom and then to implement it.
Jim Rohn, the cheeky dog, said once that “we can have more than what we’ve got, because we can become more than what we are”.
Basically, your life literally can’t be hopeless or just be complete shit forever, because of the fact that you always have the capacity to learn and to grow.
To a relatively high degree, it’s only a matter of decision on whether your life just goes uphill from here.
Even if there are pitfalls, depressive plummets and obstacles that you face.
Because after a bit, the kind of person who’s willing to be calm and to learn something from the situation will grow beyond the temporary downfall.
EXACTLY how to become the kind of person who can see beyond the Earth’s surface.
So, how do you learn constantly?
“Intention, Focus, Reflect” (IFR). Set an intention to listen at the beginning of the day. Focus on being mindful as you walk around. Breathe and just observe people, the trees around you, any birds singing or flying around, etc. Then reflect on conversations while you’re having them, or after you depart them. Use this Associative Habit to help condition yourself into the kind of person who constantly absorbs knowledge from experience, rather than from the mass media, and the kind of person who thinks and makes decisions for themselves.
Ultimately, this puts you into a position that not many people (at all) ever find themselves in…
The position where you can “see beyond the surface”, and see things not just how they’re presented to you, or how other people speak about those things, or even by what fits your current beliefs.
You can learn from the way in which a professor lectures you, rather than just the words that they’re saying.
You can learn from analysing the petty way in which an argument started with your friend, in order to teach yourself more about human psychology and emotion, rather than to analyse the argument itself.
Because it was probably all nonsense anyways.
Now, to do all of this, here’s the Associate Habit that I’ve started using to reflect on each time I leave the house. It’s pretty actionable, so here you go:
1) Whenever you put your wallet or purse down on a table or whatever at your house, place a little notepad (I got my little, cheap pocket-sized ones from Coles grocery) next to the wallet or the purse. Place a pen there too.
2) Associate putting your wallet AND the pen in your pocket or picking up your purse, with putting the notepad in your pocket with the wallet, or putting the notepad in your purse (it shouldn't be in there already).
3) After you walk OUT of the front door to go out somewhere, say that, "I'm so glad that I have the capacity to learn so much stuff about the world, just by being curious about people and observing them and myself. Let's take on the day". This is your “Intention”. Then when you go out, you “Focus”.
4) After you walk IN through the front door to your house after you get back, walk straight to the desk in your house, or to a place where you can sit down and write. Use this same place every single time (I use my desk in my room). Sit down and pull out your notepad and pen and put them on the surface in front of you.
5) Associate that last action with writing down, "what just happened when I went out?". Write your answer.
Then write more questions, like, "what did I learn?", and answer them. This is “Reflect”.
How to make all of this easier, by being calm and present.
Now my last point, just to support all of the previous steps, reduce excessive small talk.
If you’re getting to know a new person, you don’t always need to use small talk, but you can if you want to. Otherwise, if you’re with someone that you know, closely or not, there’s no need to just say shit for the sake of it. Silence is great, because you can just be with each other, and you can experience a sense of presence that allows you to be calm, and to “focus” (F) on learning.
Similarly, don’t desperately TRY to be the one who breaks awkward silences in groups.
“The number one thing that non-stressed people who’re certain of themselves, have in common, is the understanding that lessons can be learnt from anything. Even conversations and situations that seemingly share no relevance…” (The Peaky Pines Playbook 2:9)
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